There are many religions that teach a law of reciprocity. The particular style of reciprocity may vary, but essentially they are the same, minus a few variables. I have written about this before, as well as the universe course correcting itself. But I am going to share something that I have realized in the last year concerning this topic. Whether or not a deity, karma, or some other force is behind people “getting what they deserve,” the last thing we should do as humans is enjoy this punishment (granted that it even IS punishment). You can’t rule out the possibility that it’s just a happenstance or situational occurrence. The prime reason I want to teach you this today is because you are truly never over something until you are over it. The other person’s well-being, state-of-mind, and existence should not have an effect on you or your psyche.
The prime point of this post is that forgiveness is essential. This is why I’m such a believe in keeping the peace. One of my favorite feelings in the world is thinking back about a stupid argument that I had, and not even being able to remember what it was about. Here’s my main point, though. You should not gloat in the defeat of your enemy. You should not rejoice in his or her moment of defeat. You should pity them. If you pray, you should pray for them. You should mourn their situation. As humans, regardless of what religion you are, you should feel a love for a person. A love that supersedes anything that they could have done to hurt you. This, my friends, is how you know you are over something. When you truly, deeply, are hurt because they hurt. You can call this God’s forgiveness, Nirvana, a zenlike state, or whatever you choose. It doesn’t matter how you reach this state-of-mind, because the mindset is what’s important. Not how you get there.
How do you get there? It isn’t easy. You can’t wake up and decide to forgive someone. That’s why you have to take it step-by-step. You have to realize that what was done may have been a mistake on their part, your part, or both of your parts. Either way, it doesn’t matter. Is it more important to dwell on how it happened, or is it more important to move past it? There have been times in the past where I was so angry at a situation that the only time I was happy was when I was sleeping. Let me tell you, that is not a fun place to be. We all experience times like this in our life. We all experiences hardships, hurt, and hatefulness. But as I’ve said for many years, what matters is how we react in those hurtful situations. I encourage you to forgive someone that may have hurt you. If you are thinking that they were in the wrong, it does not matter. In the long run, it will do both of you a world of good.
